人の話の聴き方が上手い人には共通する特徴があって、それは列記するとこのようなことだと思う。
１．人の話をおもしろがって聞く。
２．なにか広がりそうなところがあると、そこを聞いてみる。
３．相手がなにを話しても、攻撃的にならず、たしなめ方が上手い。
４．自分の話もするのだけど、それはあくまで対比としてする。
５．自分の話をするときは、たいてい、一歩下がった位置でおもしろおかしい失敗譚が多い。
６．相手が話したがりそうなところを見つけるのが上手い。
７．話し手を全肯定する。
８．ちょっとぐらい矛盾があってもつっこまない。
９．相手の話を否定しない。
etc……
これってなんなのだろうと考えると、ホスト・ホステスの話の聴き方に近い。
ひとことで言えば、話し手を主役にするのが上手い人なのだと気付いた。
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